Interesting Article of the Day- 05/04/2011 (Dating Singles)

Catch That Man by Changing Your Self-Image

December 30, 2010 at 9:00 am

By Psychic Giovanna

Is the man you seek sending mixed messages? Is he distant, detached, or otherwise emotionally unavailable? Is he married, or currently in another relationship? If you’ve answered “yes” to any of the above, you are caught in the cycle of “Catch-That-Man” syndrome.

We find ourselves in this type of frustrating situation most often because we haven’t truly determined what we need, want, and deserve. Once we cover bases 1-3 (respectively), we pave the road for some real relationship satisfaction.

Think about this:
1. If you really felt like you deserved clear communication, would you settle for less?
2. If you really felt deserving of an exclusive, committed relationship, would you settle for less?
3. If you were truly ready and deserving of a loving relationship, would you settle for less?

If we are totally honest with ourselves, we will answer no to these three questions. The mind may say no, but the heart becomes integrated with ego and we can’t seem to stop ourselves from wanting to “catch that man.” The reason for the disconnect is directly related to some weaknesses in our belief system in terms of what we not only just want or don’t want, but what we really, truly feel we deserve and what we can have.

If you find yourself always (miserably) chasing that illusive man or relationship that always seems just out of reach, I lovingly encourage you to shift focus from the outside to what’s within. Developing personal boundaries when it comes to relationships can do wonders when it comes to personal growth, peace, and happiness. Determine what you want and deserve, and know with confidence that the universe is on your side, and working at this very moment to bring you opportunities along your path to experience all the love, peace and joy you truly deserve, just for being you.

People aren’t lonely, or alone, because there’s a lack of available people. Check statistics for population—nationally, internationally, in your state, and locality. There are millions of people out there looking for a lasting, mutually satisfying relationship, but they remain alone for lots of reasons (i.e. excuses).

See the following partial list below:

• “I don’t have time.” Make the time and make a relationship connection a priority, and move forward!

• “There’s no one out there with interests the same as mine.” Widen your circle; there are literally thousands of available and willing people out there compatible with you!

• “No one will want me because ______.” Stop being your own worst critic. Our Creator made you, you for a reason and you have many qualities and talents just waiting to be appreciated!

• “I have no money, or am in between jobs.” While money can cause complications in relationships, it’s not a criterion to be able to begin, or sustain one. Finding that partner who will accept you and your finances is a realistic perception that you can hold and find fruitful.

* “I never meet anyone new.” Get out more. Be active with friends (or make new ones), any local family, and social and local groups. Smile and hold eye contact with people you encounter while doing routine errands. Consider that you may be putting off vibes that give others the impression that you are closed, making you seem unapproachable. Practice “opening out.”

To sum it up, our life and relationship state is a direct reflection of our personal beliefs about ourselves, and the world surrounding us. These beliefs can run the gamut of being rooted in traditional and social conditioning, or stem from inner feelings of low self worth and non-deservingness. We experience life and love as we allow ourselves to, so don’t cut yourself short. Continue working on yourself, your awareness, and on developing a strong sense of self-love, keeping in mind that we attract people and events into our lives that are aligned with our current state of being.

Exercise: Allow yourself to reflect back to a time in which you felt a sense of peace and certainty that you would receive something. This sense is what magnetizes us for getting what we want. Reflect back often, and allow yourself to re-experience this state as often as possible to charge yourself. Expect with certainty, that the Universe will bring to you that which you feel you deserve, so love yourself and live a joyous life.

Interesting Article of the Day- 05/04/2011 (Engaged/Married Couples)

10 Principles of a Successful Marriage

By Frankie Doiron

Successful, happy marriages don't just happen. They require attention, commitment, work and skill. The following 10 Principles will help couples create the type of marriage we all want.

1. You are accountable for the success of all your relationships.

Whether you accept it or not, you are accountable for the success or failure of your relationships. What you bring to your relationships (your beliefs, attitudes, choices, behaviors, and actions) will impact your relationships -- positively or negatively.

Choose to be conscious of what you are thinking and how you are acting, so that you can make choices that will support rather than sabotage your relationships.

2. You have to GIVE more than you expect to RECEIVE.

Treat your partner the way you would love to be treated in all areas of your relationship. Don't hold back because you may not be receiving what you are giving them. Be an example and guide for your partner, showing him/her how to love and give without any expectation of reciprocity. By doing so you will be creating a new way of relating that your partner will want to emulate.

3. You need to know who you are and what you want.

Being clear about who you are and what you want in life and your marriage will bring a powerful sense of fulfillment and purpose to your life. Without having these guidelines for living, you will always feel unsettled and think you are missing something important--when in reality, what you want is probably right in front of you.

4. Be the marriage partner you want to be with.

You need to be the partner you want to be with. In other words, if you want to be with a partner who is kind, affectionate and considerate, you need to BE that person first. You can't expect your partner to treat you differently from the way you treat him/her.

5. Gain relationship knowledge and skills.

Marriage is the most important relationship you have and yet, it is the one area of life where most people lack the basic knowledge and skills needed to ensure success. Do something about it. Acquire the help you need to improve your knowledge and relationship competencies. 

6. Be a strong advocate for your marriage.

Recognize and honor your marriage for what it is -- the most important relationship you have; more important than any other, including the one you have with your children. Defend it, cherish it, enjoy it. Don't denigrate it or your partner. It is a sacred bond.

7. Be committed to your relationship and your partner.

Commitment is a promise. When you said your wedding vows you promised to commit to your relationship and your partner, for life. Be a person of your word and do whatever it takes to honor the commitment you made. Commitment is the glue that will hold you together during challenging times, and will carry you through the impossible. Couples who stay together through difficult times report that their marriage is happier and stronger.

8. Your relationship and partner mirror you and are the instruments of your growth.

Often our greatest personal growth comes from challenges and adversity. Marriage is not always an easy path, but if you can get out of the way of your own drama, you can develop in ways that is not otherwise possible. Marriage is a vehicle for great personal transformation.

9. The most important legacy you can leave your children is the example of your own successful relationship.

Because most people lack relationship skills and knowledge they struggle to create successful relationships. Most people have never had the opportunity to see a role model of a happy marriage. By creating and living in a successful marriage you will be providing your children and grandchildren with guidelines for their own success.

10. You can do anything you want when you set your mind to it.

You have more power and control over your thoughts and attitudes than you know. If you decide you want to have a happy marriage, you can achieve it. But you must want it first.

You can transform your marriage into something that is magnificent and fulfilling, no matter how you feel about each other now, or what issues have caused you pain. It is your choice to make. Choose love. Choose your marriage. If you need help, get it.

Copyright © 2011 by Frankie Doiron. All rights reserved in all media. Used with permission.

Interesting Article of the Day-04/16/2011

7 Things Men Look for In Their Future Wife

February 1, 2011 at 11:00 am

By Alina Mikos

Men have a reputation for being simple creatures – mainly because they simplify where women tend to analyze. However, they’re no dummies when it comes to looking for the right woman. Call it the Boy Scout in them, but when they finally decide to pack their gear and forage for a suitable mate, you’d better believe that they’re testing out all the campers they have access to before choosing their partner. Men may date all types of women, but when it comes to taking the big plunge, they are definitely more discretionary. Here are a few critical traits that men look for in the women they intend to make their partner for life.

1. Independence
Joining your life with another human being offers an abundance of challenges, not the least of which is becoming one half of a couple while still maintaining your own separate identity. It’s a delicate balance, and both partners must be individually secure in themselves prior to joining their lives together. If a woman loses her selfhood to a man, giving up her own interests and personality to match his, he will inevitably lose respect for her. In similar fashion, if a woman never permits her mate the freedom to do things on his own or with others outside of the relationship, he will feel suffocated and trapped. A man looks for a woman with whom he can spend quality time, and who will appreciate their time apart and the pursuit of their individual interests.

2. Support
It is imperative that a man feels that his woman supports his choices and his achievements. A man’s ego can be fragile at times, meaning that he will need your reassurance and advocacy regarding certain decisions and beliefs. This is not to say that you must see eye-to-eye on everything, but that where his core beliefs and ego are concerned, you will be an ally. Men want strength in a woman – life is hard and he’ll need to know that you are up to the challenge of standing to-to-toe with him when things get tough. Not all events in life are pretty as roses, and if he feels that he will have to care for you and himself, he won’t ever see you as a viable long-term partner.

3. Stimulation
Whether it’s in an intellectual arena, at the gym, or in the bedroom, he wants a woman who keeps things interesting, challenges him, and even surprises him sometimes. Living with the same person for many years can easily dull the edges of the relationship, but if you sustain a freshness and sense of discovery within the partnership, you two can enjoy a happy and monogamous relationship for many years to come.

4. Comfortability
Men look for women who allow them to be themselves. We may play many roles throughout the day – at work and in society – but when a man comes home, he needs to feel that he can be himself and that you’ll still love and accept him, smelly feet and all.

5. Self-Confidence
Love yourself before anyone else. This is a popular mantra of the twenty-first century, and is closely affiliated with self-confidence. If you truly love yourself, you will treat others better, will carry yourself proudly, speak more eloquently, and generally appear more attractive to men. Self-confident people seem more in control, and more capable in life, which is a highly attractive quality to a man searching for a mate.

6. Inspiration
Men look for women who inspire them to be the best that they can be. If he feels like a better person when he’s around you, he’ll look to snag you indefinitely, thus ensuring his positive evolution. A man wants a woman who enhances his life, perhaps by introducing him to new experiences or ways of thinking, or who challenge him to achieve greater things.

7. Honesty
He must feel like he can trust you and that you will always be honest with him, no matter how difficult the situation. If he feels that you can and do lie to him, even about little things, he will never open his heart fully to you, and will ultimately look elsewhere for the woman he can trust implicitly.